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A National Conversation about sexual assault

10/13/2016

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​I, as well as most of my clients and I'm sure, many of you have been reminded of the times we have been sexually harassed and assaulted.  For some the reminders are so painful they can't stop thinking about it, are crying and feeling jumpy, scared and angry.  Some of my clients are feeling physically ill.

My first assault was by a cousin when I was very young.  When I was 19 a city bus driver tried to groom me by telling me I had to sit at the front of the bus.  A few bus rides later he told me I had to kiss him to get off the bus.  Finally he grabbed me and pulled me to his lap.  I got away and never rode the bus again.  A coworker when I was in my 30's decided since our birthdays were the same day that I had to give him a birthday kiss.  I never went to work on my birthday again.  I can imagine how these men talked to other sexual predators about their hunt and conquests.  I never said anything about the bus driver.  It was years before I told anyone about my coworker and only then because I was called out on being angry with him.

There are of course more incidents that have occurred.  I think we have an opportunity here to talk.  To talk about our experiences.  To unearth the secrets.  To realize that this was not our fault.  We did nothing to bring it on.  There are some men on this planet who prey on women and children.  They have a strategy that involves being charming.

I invite you to let others know about your experiences.  Let's support each other.  Let's change the national conversation.  Let's challenge the norms that allow this harmful culture.  Let's teach our boys how to treat people respectfully, to take responsibility for their actions, talk about their feelings and experiences.  Let us treat ourselves and each other with respect.


On your mark, get set, go!
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EMDR Videos

10/1/2016

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Here are two videos about EMDR.  They are both old, one from 2008, the other 2012.  However, the information and descriptions are very helpful.

A news report from 2008 that follows a soldier who developed PTSD not after the war, but after being involved in a car accident at a busy outdoor market with fatalities and multiple injuries.

A Documentary produced in 2012 with survivors, therapists, neurologists and our favorite, Francine Shapiro.

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This is why I do what I do.

2/28/2014

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"There are times these days this experience feels almost like a dream.  Truthfully the suffering and inner tangle feels more like a memory than something I actually experienced.  You were correct when you said that would be the case.

A life I was determined to end, hmmm.  Thank you a thousand times for not giving up.  Being the professional, kind, understanding, non-judgmental and sympathetic human that somehow in all my misery I was able to find.  I am so grateful that you never once made fun of or dismissed my genuine suffering. ... I couldn't have asked for a better outcome.  Even though the situation hasn't changed, I have.

You have done more for me than was imaginable in just six short months.  My life has taken some incredible turns during our time together and knowing you were there has been a tremendous comfort.  I would be lying if [I didn't say] what lies ahead has me a bit terrified but my brain feels unscrambled so I will deal. . . . Thank you Jeanne."
                                      - H 2/5/14
I volunteered as a Mental Health Counselor at the Wellness Project in Vancouver, WA.  The Wellness Project accepts clients who do not have mental health insurance and need counseling and/or medication.  I do so as a way to give back to the community, as well as have regular contact with other professionals.  Having a private practice is wonderful in so many ways, but it can be isolating.  I miss working with a team.

I worked with a woman for about six months.  This is average for clients at the Wellness Project.  When we finished our work together, she surprised me with a letter.  Her experience is what brings me satisfaction and happiness.  I feel blessed that I was able to work with her, that she was able to heal so much, and that she shared her feelings with me.  This client told me I could post her whole letter, but this is an excerpt, taking out any information that could identify her.
 
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    Jeanne L. Meyer, LMHC, LPC, MAC is a private mental health therapist in Vancouver, WA.

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